Tuesday 9 December 2014

Are Indian Women Too Dependent?



Despite the fact that feminism in India is seeking new peaks and establishing a new definition which presents Indian women as independent and successful, there underlies the truth that Indian women are still dependent on others for their physical, emotional, social and financial needs.

A woman who leads a successful life- an amazing job, a fabulous house, a supportive family will still want someone to take care of her when she falls sick, will wish for a man who will protect her from those dirty stares and filthy comments on road or at other places.

Indian women need to get out of their shells to be independent. They need to practice independence of the following form:
·    Physical Independence- Ability of taking care of their needs and even health for that matter, at their own.
·    Emotional Independence- They should understand that by being clingy all the time, they reduce their own values and that’s the reason others start to take them for granted!
·    Financial Independence-Men are not the providers and source of security, being a 21st century women, they are capable of making more money and utilizing it way better than men can.
No matter how much they boast about it saying they are the 21st century women, they don’t need man to survive, to stay happy but they are proved wrong over and again.
It’s that simple a cause that women are actually pre-programmed to feel dependent on men, in India. Even though they might be rich, leading a famous and luxuries life, they feel vulnerable and deep down they fear of surviving all alone. A woman may have a better career, more paying job but the trump card in a relationship is held by the man.

The dependency is all cooked up in their heads; they have been always presented as the weaker section of the society. As women nowadays live a more successful life at career levels, financial dependency held least importance, mental dependence is what makes them too dependent. Women need to understand that they can be happy at their own, they are capable and smart enough to walk through the phases of lives alone, instead of being stuck up with the wrong man just because they feel they are dependent on him.


Homemakers play a vital role in a family, they need to boost up their confidence and free their thoughts. They should understand that they are not mere machine to cook and clean but are equally important. They are no less from the women successful in her workplace or with the men in the family. They actually do the most important work of managing the house efficiently.
Psychologically, woman emotionally depends on the male counterpart to a great extent and this is what actually gives men the power of blame-games and abuses for anything bad that happens between them.
Men do not cease to remind her of her 'responsibilities’ over and again but women needs to brush it aside and emerge out as stronger and independent!!
                                                                                       

Review of “Trisha”


Book Tittle: Trisha

Publication: Omji Publishing House Pvt.Ltd.

Review:
“Trisha” is written by Swagnika Roy & published by Omji Publishing House.
The story revolves around the protagonist Trisha Chatterjee, who is a modern strong girl. The story starts from the beautiful city of Kolkata and as the story proceeds further Trisha leaves the city and move on to a different city, running away from the shadows of past yet not completely moving on and letting it go. 
Trisha is a very strong yet too emotional person. You can hate her or love her for her ways but just can’t ignore her. It also portrays that there is a clear difference between being modern and being ‘available’. Smoking or dressing modern or being straightforward and bold does not mean being ‘open-for-all’.  That bold and outgoing smart girl Trisha has been betrayed by the one she loved with all her heart. And no matter how strong she is yet the betrayal in love have affected her deep, she is not ready to let go off her past. The story talks about the hardships, failures and hurtful realizations she faces and how she fights them and manages to withstand it all. Most of the situations talked about are relatable and touches the fragments, joys and hardships of college life and corporate life, the feeling of loneliness and realization of family’s importance, etc are beautifully woven in the story.
Talking about the climax, it’s just appealing and gives a hope that no matter what we go through, what mistakes we make, what troubles we face, someday it would all be okay. Maybe we won’t get what we wanted but rather we will get what we need to be happy in life! Totally worth reading.
 






PS I loved the quote inspired from Cecelia Ahern (one of my favorite) :)




Wednesday 3 December 2014

Review of ‘The Purple Moon’




Book Title: The Purple Moon
Publication: First Step publishing

Review:

‘The Purple Moon’ is a collection of hundred poems and all the poems in some or other form depicts love and all the other emotions attached to it. Neelam Chandra Saxena mam have a way with words. She knows how to beautifully express feelings through both prose and poems.


The title of the book, ‘The Purple Moon’ in itself is magnetic and elegant. It truly matches with the theme of love. Every poem is so different from the other though it talks about the feelings of love. The longing for lover, the wishes and desires of a lover, the fear of falling apart, the sadness of a lonely heart wanting nothing but love, hopes and many more strong feelings are described in beautiful yet simple words in poetic form. It’s hard to choose favorites as all of the poems are beautiful in their own ways.

Simplicity is the highlight of this poetry book by Neelam mam. I don’t know the technicality of the poetry but all I know is these poems made me smile, made me ponder deeply and above all I could relate to them because of the simple expression of all the feelings. A good read overall.